Best place to feel good

August 8, 2011 § Leave a comment

Marriage is the best place to feel good – we’ve got someone who loves us and said they would stay with us no matter what. If that’s just the foundation, wow! It can even get far better than that, with just a little daily reinforcement thrown in.

Each day that you slip in a compliment like, “wow, you’re the best [insert noun] ever”, “thanks for doing the [insert chore]”, “you’re my favourite person in the world” etc, etc, or that you receive such encouragements, notice how your day is so much happier and your marriage keeps getting better and better each day!

It’s been reinforced to me over and over again from many different sources over the past two weeks: the words we speak are so powerful that they create our reality.

New lease of life!

June 13, 2011 § Leave a comment

I’ve figured out what I need to do with this blog now, though it took 3 years.

It’s getting a make-over!

I’m taking a holiday in a couple of weeks, and when I come back, this blog will become a treasure trove of encouragements for married couples. Positive snippets of nice things to fill our marriage spaces will stream forth, maybe monthly at first with the aim of making it more often.

No ball and chain marriages here!

Subscribe and be encouraged…

At last, the long-awaited…

May 1, 2011 § Leave a comment

It’s been three years in the making, but our book is almost ready to be launched!

It’s a non-religious marriage planning book for engaged couples and newlyweds. It takes couples through 5 basic steps of getting prepared for a marriage of fun, adventure, and long-lasting bliss. It only takes a little bit of a couple’s time, but will have far longer lasting effects. « Read the rest of this entry »

Pride

January 23, 2011 § Leave a comment

Pride – what a useless emotion when it stops us from communicating!

I remember getting upset at my hubby for some unimportant little thing – maybe he made a mess and went to work without cleaning it up or something. When he got home he could tell I was upset and asked what was wrong. So I told him in no uncertain terms.

He immediately apologised and put his arms around me. At first I resisted his embrace because I told myself I was rightly upset at his lack of consideration for me. But then I realised that

1) he just apologised and

2) I’d rather have him hug me than push him away and stay angry for no reason. « Read the rest of this entry »

Sweet things or mud fights

January 13, 2011 § Leave a comment

I just downloaded an e-book to give to someone dear to me, who is a number of years into their marriage. I’m reading it first to make sure it’s good, and it really is good! The book is called Lessons for a Happy Marriage by Paul Friedman, and can be downloaded for free by clicking on the link. (Update: I believe the e-book is no longer free, but well worth the small charge.)

Paul describes a joint “space” couples create between them as they develop their relationship.

You want a happy marriage, right? So the book says only fill your relationship space with what you want in your marriage. Open the trash hatch, let all the mud dump out so you don’t need to bring any of it up again, and start filling the space again with how you want your relationship to be: filled with sweet things. « Read the rest of this entry »

Get married for better sex

January 5, 2011 § Leave a comment

All that rubbish about sex life going downhill once you get married – if you’re engaged don’t listen to the few with problems who broadcast it loudly. It’s like how the world looks all bad when you just watch the news all the time, though we all know the news specializes in bad news.

The best sex to be had, is sex with your marriage partner, because it just gets better and better as you learn more about how to please one another under the promise of exclusive commitment. Marriage is the most likely place to get quality and quantity! « Read the rest of this entry »

To new beginnings, and happy ever after!

January 1, 2011 § Leave a comment

Each new year is like any new beginning, it begins with hope and high expectations. It’s important to hold these high hopes and expectations as a vision for how we want our marriage to be. We just need to know that little troubles happen along the way to strengthen our relationships, not to break them down, as long as we make effort to resolve them.

Happily Ever After doesn’t mean that once you’re married you never have arguments. But having arguments doesn’t mean you’re not able to live happily ever after, either.

Arguments are just one form of communication. We are given the impression from movies and books « Read the rest of this entry »