January 4, 2010 § Leave a comment
New Zealanders love to buy real estate as their investment for the future. New Zealanders are also very entrepreneurial but when they start businesses, they often seem to stop at the point where they can buy a holiday home, a nice car and a leisure craft (the old Bach, Boat, and BMW). Beyond that either they have no interest in growing their business to something that grows NZ exports, or they have limited, difficult or only foreign access to growth funding. Why? Because everyone with extra money here only wants to buy houses… « Read the rest of this entry »
November 27, 2009 § Leave a comment
A work colleague was making jokes about another coworker getting married and never being seen again (in terms of drinks functions etc), so I couldn’t help but feel compelled to share my viewpoint :). I said that jokes like men being tied to a ball and chain once married, or being controlled by their wife, give marriage a bad name. I told him that I thought that men who allowed themselves to be bossed around by their wives were lazy wimps if they couldn’t be bothered making the effort of expressing their own will or opinion on matters!
What do you think about the ball and chain analogy? Is it real?
September 14, 2009 § 1 Comment
What is it that happens to make people realise they want to spend the rest of their lives with each other? I’m fascinated by this – how do you know? In my own experience I got little surprises about my husband to be almost each time I saw him (when we had just met). I couldn’t quite believe that a man actually existed that was just like I never realised I always wanted!
I think one factor that definitely goes without saying is time spent getting to know the personality of this person. If you like what they say and are impressed by what they do, if you enjoy spending your time with them, it has to count for a whole lot. But is it enough to commit to your whole life with them? I’m sure there are many other facets to this. What are your stories on how you knew you wanted to be with your spouse “til death do you part”?
August 4, 2009 § Leave a comment
So many marriage partners seem to assume when there is more than one answer to something, they have to win their opinion, otherwise they lose. « Read the rest of this entry »
February 28, 2009 § 1 Comment
Both of you will have pre-conceptions of what your marriage will or should look like, whether they are subconscious or real. You probably also have conscious plans for certain things you wish to be a part of your new team dynamics. I cannot stress enough how important it is to try and find out at least the most important ones to you before you marry, and to talk about these and design how they will be outplayed once you are married. Once you are in the habit of talking about these, it will be a lot easier as you go along and discover more of them to talk about them, and resolve them together. « Read the rest of this entry »
December 30, 2008 § Leave a comment
Here are some initial questions to discuss between yourselves. After you’ve discussed them together, see the next blog for additional information on this topic.
- How do you each define marriage?
- What are your attitudes toward marriage?
- What were your role models of marriage growing up?